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Prayers vs. Blessings

Tim Frodsham, 28 January, 2025

I have always been an ardent student and advocate of priesthood blessings. When my children were young, I would spend time contemplating, seeking inspiration from the Holy Spirit before laying my hands on my precious charges to bless them in time of need, or time of change. Priesthood blessings were an integral part of important events such as the first day of school, start of college, start of a mission, before marriage and dealing with a problem or crisis. Don’t let this small list hinder you from taking advantage of any opportunity to bless your children, your grandchildren and any others who cross your path.

Quotes in this blog are from the April 2018 Russell M Nelson, “Ministering with the Power and Authority of God”.

“Brethren, we hold the holy priesthood of God! We have His authority to bless His people. Just think of the remarkable assurance the Lord gave us when He said, ‘Whomsoever you bless I will bless.’ It is our privilege to act in the name of Jesus Christ to bless God’s children according to His will for them.”

Using priesthood power, as a father and grandfather, I called down angels from heaven to surround, protect and nurture the children God entrusted to my care. At the time, we were forbidden by church leaders to record these blessings, and it was not until an empty Nester that the brethren encouraged us to record these moments to pass on to our children.

“Not long ago, I attended a sacrament meeting in which a new baby was to be given a name and a father’s blessing. The young father held his precious infant in his arms, gave her a name, and then offered a beautiful prayer. But he did not give that child a blessing. That sweet baby girl got a name but no blessing! That dear elder did not know the difference between a prayer and a priesthood blessing. With his priesthood authority and power, he could have blessed his infant, but he did not. I thought, “What a missed opportunity!”

In a post on my regular blog, I described a hike down the Zion Narrows, where my young scout leader called down the powers of heaven. It was more than a tremendous prayer. There is a powerful difference between offering a heartfelt prayer to our God, and using Priesthood authority to call down the power of Heaven.

“It is a remarkable blessing to serve in the Lord’s true and living Church with His authority and power. The restoration of the priesthood of God, including the keys of the priesthood, opens to worthy Latter-day Saints the greatest of all spiritual blessings. We see those blessings flowing to women, men, and children throughout the world.”

As a young father and scout leader, I also had home teaching assignments to several families, one of which was my youth leader in the post on the Zions Narrows. I was working in my yard one day when he came down the street to tell me his parents were divorcing. He wanted me to come give him and his siblings a priesthood. On entering their home, mom was there, but from the icy reception, I knew she wanted nothing to do with priesthood or blessings. I started with the youngest child, and rather than pronouncing a prayer of council, I gave a blessing. I called down angels to protect and comfort this tiny daughter of God. Child by Child, I worked up the family, using Priesthood power and authority to call blessings, protection and comfort on this distressed family. When I finished the last child, That confused, stressed and shaken mother sat down in the chair for her own blessing. I was honored to pronounce upon her a priesthood blessing as well.

“Brethren, there are doors we can open, priesthood blessings we can give, hearts we can heal, burdens we can lift, testimonies we can strengthen, lives we can save, and joy we can bring into the homes of the Latter-day Saints—all because we hold the priesthood of God.”

Among other things, the power of the priesthood sets us apart form all the religions and all the sects of the world. We as fathers have a right and privilege to call down the powers of heaven in behalf of our wives, our children, family and any in our circle who request a blessing from God.

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Serve Now

Catherine and Tim Frodsham, 29 April 2024

There are thousands of reasons why not to serve a mission, and Catherine and I can check the boxes on most of them. I have my first two grandchildren getting married this summer and another special sealing in Catherine’s family. Both of us have family with medical conditions, and it wrenches our heart not to be there to help, console and simply be present for them. In the next year, Catherine and I have four special grandchildren that will be baptized and a new grandchild on the way. We also have a high school graduation of a sweet granddaughter.

Grandsons and tonsils

We will be missing priesthood ordinations, family reunions, graduations and of course, 40 birthdays among our grandchildren and 22 among our children and their spouses. Why did we pick this time to go on a mission? Why so early after our marriage? Why did we not wait until things were more calm in our families, with fewer family events? Why now?

A fathers blessing

There will always be family events, celebrations and hardships no matter when we choose to serve Him. To be frank, there is no “good” time to go on a mission. The ‘right’ time will never come. Our advice to anyone considering a mission, and even to those who are not, Go Now. There may be extreme circumstances why you need to postpone a mission. The Savior understands and will prompt you to the right course to take. Otherwise, Go Now. Your lives will certainly be blessed, but more important for Catherine and I, His spirit will intervene, comfort, guide and bring gently home our children and grandchildren, those who matter most.

As Senior missionaries, there are times when it is appropriate to take a quick trip home. We are planning one trip home during our mission to be present with our families for some life changing events. I believe the Lord aware of the conflicting demands on senior missionaries, and understands the needs for us to serve our families as well. Here is a quote shared with us in one of our central Europe Area devotionals.

Christmas

Elder Bednar, Adriatic North Mission, April 2023

“To you couples, I promise that the most powerful testimony you will ever bear to your children and grandchildren is your absence. Those grandchildren will pray for you now in a way that they will never again pray for you.”

“When you return home, the testimony you bear in person will be magnified because you weren’t there. Your testimony of absence will be far more powerful than anything you can do now or in the future. It will augment that testimony in miraculous ways. I promise in the name of the Lord.”

The little events

For the younger generation; prepare now. plan your finances, your job, your retirement and most important of all, build that mindset now. There is every reason to postpone a mission, but there is one good reason to go: Serve Him. We have been in tears a time or two, aching to be with our families at a time of crisis or celebration, but we both feel an overwhelming peace from Him that we are in the right place. Some of the celebrations we are missing are precisely because we are here, events that are happening at home because His Spirit is working on our children and grandchildren in our absence. Our advice to any senior couple: Go now. Don’t wait for the right time, don’t wait for the right finances. Don’t wait. Serve Him and the blessings will be poured out on your family. Yes, you will miss them and yes, there will be times of almost overwhelming sorrow because you are not there, but His spirit is behind you and He will carry you gently in His arms.

Grandson singing at conference

You will also experience times of unbounded joy, peace and satisfaction for the time you spend in His service.

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25 December 2023, Christmas Day 

I love Christmas or Christmas eve on a Sunday. What better way to honor the Sabbath. For Sacrament meeting, both wards that meet in our tiny building held Sacrament meeting together. Catherine is a gift giver, so before and after the meeting, we handed out gifts of chocolate and Christmas ornaments to members of the ward who are fast becoming stalwart friends. 

Caroling at Place Bellecour

A highlight of our Christmas weekend was caroling with the mission. The mission president and all the missionaries in the Lyon area gathered at the Place Bellecour in to sing Christmas carols. The office elders brought a portable light the world banner and we set up in several places to sing carols. We had crowds gather and missionaries mingling with them to pass out light the world invitation cards.

Catherine with Cecelia

After Caroling, we made our way to our newly called Bishop’s home to have dinner with his family as well as a trio of sisters called to the mission office as media specialists. She used a Raclette to melt slices of cheese to ooze over baked potatoes and baguettes. Catherine is making a list of French cooking implements to take home with us at the end of our mission. Also on her list is a massive Crepe maker she saw at a Christmas market. I tried to warn Catherine about the Fois Gras (fatty Duck Liver), but I was not fast enough. She left most of that hors d’oeuvre on her plate. 

Late Christmas Eve, I started a group video chat with my children. We miss them terribly and to chat with them all as they were preparing their respective Christmas celebrations was a healing and binding experience. By the time we had chatted with all our children and made it to bed, it was 2:00 AM Christmas morning. 

This was our first Christmas together as a couple. Last Christmas, we were dating and spent Christmas with our respective families. We opened gifts around our small tree, talked about the traditions held dearly by each of our families, and how we could incorporate them into our celebrations together. One tradition I will give up is the 16-foot-tall Christmas trees that my ambitious sons picked out to dominate our living room. For years, we patronized a Christmas tree farm in rural North Plains and paid $5.00 for a tree, any size. My sons picked out these massive monoliths while I caught up with the farm owner. 

Catherine’s family does an elaborate nativity recreation, dressing the grandchildren in costume to tell the Christmas story. I am sure we will be doing that where ever we spend Christmas with family.

Another tradition is to build Ginger Bread houses, and then take them out on the New Year to plunk at them with BB guns. Wow, I love this family.

Christmas eve, we were invited to share a meal with the Conessa family, an older couple with a rich history of Christmas tradition.   We sat at the table for dinner and conversed. From time to time, Elizabeth would bring out another course. We started with a ham and cheese hors d’oeuvre; tiny tarts served hot. Next, she brought out halved tomatoes with deviled eggs and humus on top. Roasted duck followed, then a cheese course, a traditional French Yule log and finally the champagne (non-alcoholic, of course) The meal itself lasted over three hours. They regaled us with tales from their youth, Anthony told us of his grandfather who had shot a fellow suitor in the rear. No problem, he simply called the doctor to come and remove the buck shot. According to his incredible wife, Anthony was quite the looker in his youth, and was always surrounded by a bevy of beautiful girls. He told them he was looking for a girl who did not smoke, drink and was virtuous. The girls all assured him that no such female existed. He found his bride at a service project. After the project, sweaty and dirty, he paraded her around his old haunts to assure the girls that such a lady indeed existed. 

Yes, I know the day has passed, but Merry Christmas to all of you and your families. Build those memories, those traditions, and most important of all, share that spirit.  Jesus Christ is the power that will save this world and all of us in it. Testify of Him.

Cathy and Tim Frodsham